Do you feel like you’re failing? Maybe you don’t think that you are enough. You haven’t achieved what you’re capable of or aren’t doing as much as you should be. We’ve all been there at some point and beat ourselves up along the way. But this mindset is often a destructive and distorted version of reality…
If you feel like you’re failing, realize that you are doing SO much better than you think you are. You are NOT failing. Here are three things that have helped me when I’ve felt like I’m failing in life…
#1 – You’re doing way better than you think you are.
Ask yourself, who’s setting your standards? Who’s saying that you’re failing? Because 99% of the time, that perspective is actually coming from ourselves. We’re the ones who are looking at other people and then comparing our achievements. We’re the ones constantly measuring what we’ve done against others.
I’m here to tell you… You don’t have to do it all! You don’t have to be perfect.
#2 – Let it go and stop worrying about it.
Worrying won’t fix it. Worry just creates stress which raises your cortisol levels and contributes to stomach fat. So you’re not helping yourself by worrying, in fact, you’re actually hindering yourself. That worry is not serving you.
“You can’t freak out enough to make it happen”.
Something I always tell my Foxy Mom Clubbers is that doing something is better than doing nothing. Squeezing in a 10-minute workout is better than not doing any physical activity at all. If you make four of your meals a week then it’s better than making zero and eating takeout every night. We don’t need to go all out on things to make a difference.
Stop being so hard on yourself. Give yourself some grace. Give yourself some love.
Be patient with yourself, life is hard.
We’re all working on hundreds of different things. Stuff gets in the way. Life happens. But I want you to know that you are amazing! You’re doing way better than you think you are.
Even if you don’t feel like you’re living up to your own standards, step back and give yourself some grace. Let that be enough for the time being.
#3 – Focus on what you can control.
What if you just tried to improve 1% every single day? That means eating one more serving of fruit or veg per day. Or drinking an extra 4oz of water. Imagine if you made these tiny improvements on a daily basis, the cumulative effects would be huge! You’d improve by 365% over the course of a year!
Focus on baby steps. If you try to do it all, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
You may feel like you’re failing. You might feel like you’re being a bad mom or underperforming at work. But I promise you that you are not. Aim for 1-2 baby steps each day and go from there.
Foxy Mom Club – Join the Waiting List
The Foxy Mom Club will soon be opening for registration but only to those of you who are on the waiting list. If you aren’t already signed up then go ahead and get your name on the list here. Next month we’ll be addressing emotional eating which includes a workshop, videos, printables and cheat-sheets. You also get to download the audio files so you can play them offline without using cell phone data, plus you get to keep them forever! Get on the waiting list here.