Do you have a healthy relationship with food? For some, it’s a source of misery and guilt. For others, it’s something they look forward to and use to cheer themselves up. And then there’s a tiny proportion of people who have zero emotional attachment and just see it as fuel.
It’s funny how something as basic as food can spark such dramatic reactions in us. Why is it that we use ice-cream to repair a broken heart? Where did the concept of ‘comfort food’ even come from? When did we begin to associate what we eat with how we feel?
The relationship we have with food has a profound influence on our eating habits. This might sound obvious, but very few of us take the time to really examine it. If we struggle with our weight or get stuck in the yo-yo diet cycle, we rarely step back to assess our relationship with food. We just try another detox plan or fall into the belief that we’re not ‘disciplined’ enough. But that’s actually not the case…
It’s an interesting fact that 79% of Americans believe they’re in control of their eating habits, yet two-thirds are either overweight or obese. There’s a mismatch in there somewhere. Either we’re not really as in control as we think we are, or we’re consciously choosing ill health.
79% of Americans believe they’re in control of their eating habits, yet 2/3 are overweight or obese.
So how do we figure out what our relationship with food is? How do we know if there are emotions attached? Or what kind of void we’re trying to fill? Well, over the last five years this is something that I’ve talked to a LOT of clients about. And in my experience, it usually comes down to one of the following…
- Lack of self-confidence
It might sound too simple, but when we really dig deep into the root cause of our bad relationships with food, there is always one thing in common: Something is wrong. It can often be hard to put our finger on exactly what that ‘something’ is, but negative relationships with food almost always involve one.
So how can you figure out your relationship with food? What can you do to get to the bottom of the issue and begin to heal? Well, one powerful approach is to start journaling. What I actually have one of my clients doing right now is journal for 5 minutes when she feels a craving (cravings mean emotional eating) and it’s making a tremendous difference! She’s noticing things about herself and figuring out what’s really missing in her life that’s being covered up with food.
Over time, you’ll start to make connections and see patterns. You’ll identify triggers that cause you to eat, enabling you to address or avoid them. By putting your thoughts down on paper, you’ll free your mind from worrying about them. So why not give it a go?
By pinpointing the cause of your food issues, you can begin to reverse them. It’s the first step in regaining control and developing a healthier relationship with eating. This is something we discuss in a lot more detail as part of my Break Free course. It’ll teach you how to identify the source of your eating habits and arm you with practical tools to address them. Learn more about it here.