Insecurity has ruined many women’s lives; what is the cause…why do we let this thing ruin our social lives, our self-beliefs, and our attitudes?
We all have insecurity, whether it be from childhood circumstances or adult circumstances. This is a huge topic and I will cover it the best I can! As women, we grow up in a world that is fixated completely on the physical and the ideal body. This is detrimental to our self confidence, self image, and ruins our lives. To be honest, it almost becomes a personality disorder as we grow older. I want you to realize that that body image is FAKE.
Why not be happy with who you are? Be happy with the body you do have! You might not be at the weight you are, but if you try so hard to look like someone else, then who will be you?? I spent so much of my life doing this; I had pictures of other women that I wanted to look like. I wasted so much time trying to do my hair like certain people or trying to do 100 crunches so I can have abs like this one lady. It was terrible. I spent much of my life trying to be someone I WAS/AM NOT. Why do we do this? Why do we care so much what others think that we change everything about ourselves?
I want you to take out a piece of paper and a writing utensil. Now, write down all the qualities that you LOVE about yourself; I want at least 15!! You will find that once you get going, you won’t have any problems coming up with things you love about yourself. I want you to keep this with you; when you feel the urge to compare yourself to someone else, take out that list and read it to yourself.
You are beautiful. You have so many qualities that make you unique and who you are! Sure, you might want a nose job or something, but don’t let that stop you or make you feel inferior. You are a gorgeous person and you were made on purpose. God put you here for a purpose in mind; whatever that purpose is, worrying about how you look and being down on yourself will not help you live that purpose. I want you to know that life is sooo much more than worrying about what other people think. Life is about pushing yourself to be better and working on God’s will. Who care’s what other people think of you!? I mean, God created you and God thinks sooo much of you! I think so much of you! So please, don’t waste another minute worrying about what someone else who isn’t even worth your time is thinking of you!
There are always going to be those haters that will always put you down. And that is totally fine. They are here to make us stronger on the inside; you have to just take it in stride. When I get haters (and believe me, I do) at first I want to get defensive and kick some A! Instead, I say “thank you so much for your input; I greatly appreciate it. You have a blessed day!” Sometimes, I delete the comments (it is MY page after all) and I am all about positivity, not negative nellies! When I worked at a law office, our motto was “kill them with kindness” and it has stuck. The best way to overcome the haters is to be nice to them or ignore them. They don’t deserve a minute of your time, so don’t give it to them!
Be strong in your beliefs of who you are and what you are doing. Be strong in knowing that God has a plan for you and made you exactly the way you are! I really recommend reading the book How to be a Bad Ass by Jen Sincero. This book is real and tells you like it is…it helped me in so many areas of my life!